Great Friend, Good Times, Warm Heart…

I met her in high school. I had just joined Keru-G in 2002 in form 2. A new school. I remember being naïve and scared coz all the girls had already settled in and had made friends. I was fresh, shocked and overwhelmed with the newness of a new environment. We became fast friends and …

Will Mental Health Ever Be Taken Serious In Kenya?

Photo from Citizen Tv I recently saw this and my heart sunk. I felt for that poor baby, the family and more so, the mom. No mom, in their right mind would do such a heinous thing to their own flesh and blood. I keep saying, mental health conditions are real. But the society we …

How To Lose Weight Faaaast!

I struggle with my weight! One minute I’m outchea looking like a snack, the next I’m looking like a bloated pregnant hippo! I struggle sooo much that it gets to me but my mouth cannot allow me to shine coz I eat like a thief! My greatest weakness is wheat and the sweet things! Aaaall …

How African Dads Can Bond Better With Their Kids!!

There’s something about African men; tough exteriors, zero emotions and toxic masculinity. Okay. Not all African men but I swear, almost all of them! Especially our dear beloved Kenyan brothers. Granted, the toughness they harbor is necessary for the world we live in. They have to show that they are men enough even though it …

The mental effects of bullying

In 2017, a woman committed suicide by throwing herself in front of oncoming traffic and one of the reasons was cyber bullying. She had been mocked and ridiculed after she asked advise from a famous Facebook group in Kenya. In 2019, a 14 year old girl killed herself after she was bullied by a teacher for being on her period. The ridicule and shame contributed greatly to her death.

Brian Oyoo; Overcoming Depression and Soaring High

Image by Brian I met Brayo a little over 6 years ago after I got married. His family and my in-laws are great close family friends. Brayo is fun, outgoing and a people’s person. He is kind, always ready to help and super respectful. And he has a twin brother. Ask me about him later! …

Sex education or no?

African parents are the worst. They will give you life and all the while, threaten you heavily of how they will take you out. They are known to manipulate, exaggerate and magnify a situation. Woe unto you if you once tried to block a slap or beating, you will be accused of attempted murder and …

Delusions of Grandeur

We all have big dreams. Big visions that drive and motivate us to work and do better in our lives. I mean, a man without a dream is as good as dead, right? I always had big dreams for myself. When younger, I wanted to be a nurse and care for the sick and wounded; …

Dissociative Identity Disorder and how to recognize it!

I am binge watching Marcella on Netflix and I just finished season one. The show is about a woman, Marcella, a former detective who quit her job and became a stay at home mom to raise her children. She does this for several years until a familiar case she worked on before, resurfaces after years …

All you need to know about PTSD!!

Do you remember Lt.Dan in Forrest Gump? The one who came back from the war crippled? He blames Forrest for saving him and after they come home, he is seen struggling with the impacts of war. He engages in self-destructive behavior, is reckless and is usually angry. In Iron Man 3, Tony Stark struggles with …

Crazy delicious; Review

(Today we have a guest contributor, Elian Guddilah, to the blog. She is a foodie, great with words, super smart, and an awesome reviewer. Catch her review on the show Crazy delicious and show her some love!!) The Culinary World is one of the greatest things that both intrigue and excite me in equal measure. …

How to dump your boy/girl friend!!

Have you ever been dumped? Or are you the one who does all the dumping? I know of a friend who claims to have never ever been dumped. That she does all the dumping. I donno, maybe she doesn't want to be seen as the looser in the relationship, who knows! Either way, it’s no …

To vaccinate or not?

As a parent, you probably got to learn about vaccines when you were pregnant and after the birth of your child. In Kenya, all children must be immunized to prevent diseases. Due to this, there has been a long-standing debate on how safe and necessary they are. Many issues like beliefs and culture, religion and …

You just might have ADHD!!

Ever wondered why your concentration or that of your child is so poor? Back in university, I would go to the library to study, for exams, because catch me dead any other day, and I would never last 30 minutes!! My study partner would wonder why I’m not taking my education seriously and I told …

Parenting Mistakes that Affect a Child Later in Life

They say parenting is one of the most difficult jobs in the world and luckily, pun intended, it does not come with an instruction manual. I have been one for a couple of years now and I can guarantee you it’s not a walk in the park. But we do our best and cross our …

Workplace Induced Stress

Ever woke up and felt so tired and demoralized to go to work? Ever just wished that you could quit your crappy job but you had no option? Or funny yet, ever wondered if you could get away with punching your boss or workmate in the face? Yes? Then you might be going through workplace …

What’s in my bag?

Dear men, ever had a peek into a woman’s bag? What did you see? I bet you saw things and wondered what they were or what they were doing there? I remember mom would go for fellowship and when she came back home, she would have a Bible, a handkerchief, keys, half a cabbage or …

How to tell you are in a toxic relationship!

Tony was married to Lucy and they were in their 4th year of marriage. The first 2 years were bliss for the two and all was beautiful but Tony was never lucky in employment and always lost his job due to one reason or the other. In those two years, he wasn’t able to provide …

Day of the African Child!

Did you know that the great movie Sarafina! was based on the happenings of 16th June 1976 exactly 44 years ago today? Known as the Soweto Uprising, the morning of the 16th saw between 10,000 to 20,000 students from around South Africa hold a series of demonstrations to reject the introduction of Afrikaans and English …

Do you have an eating disorder?

Bess had always been self-conscious about her body. She always cared a bit too much about how she looked. Her weight was always a constant worry for her. She would eat little, or sometimes nothing as she never wanted to pack in the pounds. When she looked in the mirror, she was fat, ugly and …

Raising a child in the internet age!

How hectic is it raising a child today? It’s tough, full of pressures and everyone trying to keep up with the Joneses. Parenting is already hard enough as it is, add the pressure of the internet and you automatically go crazy. I have been a parent for the last 6 years and I can guarantee …

What’s your Phobia?

I am totally and utterly afraid of heights; like I get dizzy when I go up a very long flight of stairs. The thought of me falling and dying gives me the chills. So it’s safe to say that I have a phobia of heights! Did you know that phobias are categorized as a type …

Jump on the Midnight Train!

Kenya: Mtawezana? Sauti Sol: Hold my beer. 😁😁 Sauti Sol have just wiped the floor with our asses and reminded us who they are. Kings!! We have just been schooled and I can confidently say that they have, yet again, set the bar higher. They have come out bigger and better. I mean, how high …

My Pick For Best Reality Shows!

Reality shows are the way to go if you are looking for something fun and 'real life'. They are exciting and thrilling and always have a huge following. It is therefore not shocking to see many people making a killing just from these shows. But although most shows claim to have a natural flow and …

Miscarriage; All You Need To Know!

A miscarriage is the spontaneous loss of a fetus before the 20 week mark; 80% of miscarriages happen before 12 weeks. The most common cause of a miscarriage is the lack of normal growth for the fetus. A miscarriage can sometimes happen without the knowledge of a woman especially if it happens too early into …

Understanding anxiety!

Anxiety is a mental disorder that can affect anyone in society. It can be treated and managed and one can live a normal life.

Grace Wairimu; Strength Unwavered

Despite the stigma that surrounds anything mental health, there are a few brave souls that still get the strength and courage to talk, encourage, and inspire about their mental conditions. The awareness they bring is one that is unrivaled. We get to learn, understand, and handle issues of mental health easily by just paying more …

SINFUL LOVE – PART 5

It was now 6 days since the incident. Richie was at home thanks to his wife who had immediately got him out of jail for what he claimed were trumped-up charges. She had paid 50,000Kshs for him to be released. On their drive back home, Richie was too chatty and looked nervous. Esther had tried …

My pick for the best comedy shows!

Laughter is the best medicine. True by the way! Did you know that laughter boosts your immune system, boosts your moods, decreases pain, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress? Nothing works faster to bring your body and mind back to balance than a good laugh. What better way to get your daily …

How to make money online

Money makes the world go round.  And we all want a great, fulfilling and successful life. So we work hard and ensure we have secured our futures. But sometimes, especially in Kenya, getting a good job or business might be a pipe dream. So we jump at every opportunity we get to earn money and …

The do’s and dont’s in pregnancy; 1st trimester

Pregnancy is a beautiful period for many women in the world. Well, for some it’s a walk in the park while for others, it’s a disaster. Whichever the case, pregnancy celebrates life and has to be honored as such. A lot of changes and growth happen during the first trimester and it is always advisable …

Understanding Mental Health

In recent years, the numbers on mental health issues have been on the rise in Kenya. According to a study on ‘The State on Mental Health in Kenya’ by Dr. Kamau Kanyoro, it states that at least one in every four Kenyans suffers from a mental illness at one point in their lives; this is …

SINFUL LOVE – PART 4

Lexi had always wanted the good life. She came from a humble background but that never deterred her from getting what she wanted. She was never too keen on any kind of work; school or career. But she had her ways on how to handle men; with charm and admiration. She always bagged the most …

SINFUL LOVE- PART 3

(Haven't read parts 1 and 2? Catch them here! SINFUL LOVE- PART 1 and SINFUL LOVE- PART2) Richie was a manager at Jikuze Brokerage Firm, a big financial institution that mainly dealt with stock trading. He had climbed up the ranks quickly due to his sharp mind and skillful methods. He started as a salesperson …

My top psychological TV shows and Movies!

The human mind is a wonder and a mystery to me. I try to understand what goes inside the mind and fascinated is what I am left with. Have you ever thought about what goes on in the mind of a killer?  I have. I associate human behavior with their minds. What goes through the …

My first time!

They say there’s always a first time for everything! Well, do you remember your ‘firsts’? While answering these questions, I realized that I have had a pretty normal, boring life. No pizzazz or drama. So I asked the same questions to bossman, my SO, and his answers were funny, over-the-top, and definitely more interesting. (Catch …

How to work effectively from home

Due to Covid-19, we have found ourselves in unusual circumstances and situations. We are now trying to stay alive by social distancing, washing our hands, wearing masks, and avoiding any physical contact. Most of us have even found ourselves working from home. Something we never thought we’d ever do. So how is it taking you? …

Things I wish I knew before becoming a mommy!!

Being pregnant and later giving birth looks great on paper, like super-duper great!  So great that when you see cute baby shower photos and chubby cute babies, you are tempted to want that for yourself. Your uterus starts singing and doing summersaults and before you know it, boom, you’re preggers. Then you are left wondering …

Forgive and Forget

For the last couple of weeks, I have struggled with writer's block. Can’t really wrap my head around what’s going on really.  So today I was going through some work I had written a while back to see if I could get some motivation and get me going and I found this, dated February 20th, …

She has an S on her chest!

Here’s a story of hope, love, faith, and perseverance. A story of how to play the cards we are dealt with; of believing in God and not letting your faith quiver. A story that continues to unfold and I am honored to tell it to you today. My cousin Kellen, we call her Kesh, was …

Dandora L.O.V.E

Wamlambezz?  (I hope you’ve answered accordingly!!)Hehe. Mbogi ya kimonyoski, fine yengs anga sijui nini, that’s the latest sheng from the hood my friends, thanks to the likes of kina Kartelo and Ethic. I absolutely love the language and culture up in the hoods.  You see, the hood is vibrant, full of ghetto principles, crazily amazing …

Dear Nduta,…

14 years ago today, the cold, icy hands of death snatched your beautiful soul away from us. It was a day I would never forget. I write to you today with a heavy but grateful heart for the awesome years you graced our lives with. You were the most lovely, politest and affectionate human being …

On a side note…

When I recently talked about depression, I never knew I could have an effect on anyone. I just thought it was a therapeutic way for me to let go and maybe make it up to those I may have been a shitty friend to during that despairing period. So you can imagine the shock when …

Pick yourself up!

Ever had moments where you entirely lost faith in yourself? Where you felt that you were not worthy? You go to a dark cold place where you just give in and give up? Well, I have been there, I have lived that life. It’s an exhausting, heart wrenching, pissing ordeal that consumes you and you …

Of TV shows and emotional distress…

The thing I enjoy the most in this world, okay, apart from sleeping, is watching TV. And no folks, it’s not just “watching TV”, it’s actually breathing, partaking and living for it. It’s investing feelings and emotions with fictional characters and really following up on their lives like your actual life depended on it. Say, …

Back at it

Well as they say, better late than never! It’s been 4 years since I sat down and actually wrote anything, (took me a moment to actually remember my word press password) 4 years of life, bittersweet life. 4 years of pain and heartache. 4 years of anger and bitterness. 4 years of darkness and sadness. …

Him…

I met him 8 years ago at University in a sleepy village in Uganda. He was charming, good looking and had an incredible sense of humor!! I love a man who makes me laugh!! At first, it was just the usual casual dating thing that happens in school, but later, quicker, it grew to a …

It finally hit home

Riding back home from school in my favorite matatus, ROG, is always refreshing. The music, always entertaining! Gospel hit after hit. What better way to unwind and feel rejuvenated after a long day. So recently, I’m on our way home and the gospel mix playing was just what I needed to pass time in the …

Love vs Happiness

Many are the times I often wonder what I really need in my life. Is it love? Is it happiness? BOTH you might say. But what makes me? Happiness makes me. I believe that love is essential for all beings and without it, existence would not make sense.  But I also believe that happiness can …

The Beginning…

I have always loved the thought of writing but never really gotten around to do it. I have always loved the thought of a life full of joy, laughter and most importantly, happiness. I have always loved the thought of a world full of love, peace and... chocolate!!! Well, that's just me. Might sound impossible …